Marriage Policy

Because of the laws relating to marriage, in order to be married in one of the parish churches of either Berwick, Selmeston or Alciston a person must have a ‘Qualifying Connection’. That person:

The Marriage Service

At the beginning of the service there is an explanation of the church’s understanding of the spiritual meaning of marriage. The marriage service can be found here.

Remarriage of Divorcees

The current policy of the Incumbent is that couples cannot have a marriage service in any of the churches if either of the couple is divorced. A Marriage Blessing is offered instead and for this service the conditions of marriage above do not apply.

Marriage Blessing

A service of ‘Prayer and Dedication Following a Civil Marriage’ otherwise known as a ‘Marriage Blessing’ is free from the conditions set out for marriage and the priest is glad to discuss this service with any couples. This order of service can be found here.

Marriage Resources

For information about marriage preparation resources, please see Flame Family website here.
For details of Wedding Flowers at Berwick Church, please click here
A sample Order of Service is available here
A Marriage Application Form is available here: Microsoft Word (.docx) Adobe PDF
A Marriage Blessing Application Form is available here: Microsoft Word (.docx) Adobe PDF

The following Bible Readings, Hymns and Poems are possible suggestions taken from ‘Readings for Weddings’ - compiled by Mark Oakley and published by SPCK. (ISBN 13:978-0-281-05329-2)

Wedding Prayers

A list of suitable prayers that couples may choose from if they wish can be found here.

Bible Readings

It is usual to have one or two Bible readings; a Psalm can also be chosen and said by the whole congregation.
The most popular readings are shown in bold type. (Click on reference to follow link.)

Old Testament Readings

Genesis 1:26-28,31
Genesis 2:18-24
Genesis 24:48-51, 58-67
Ruth 1:16-18
Psalm 67
Psalm 121
Psalm 128
Psalm 150
Song of Solomon 2:8-12; 8:6-7
Jeremiah 31:31-34

New Testament Readings

Matthew 5:1-12
Matthew 5:13-16
Matthew 19:3-6
Romans 8:35, 37-39
Romans 12:1-2, 9-18
1 Corinthians 13:1-13
Philippians 4:4-9
Colossians 3:12-15
1 John 3:18-24
1 John 4:7-12

Wedding Poems and Reflections

Please click here for some possible poems and reflections - you can also search on line for these texts.


(Click on title to follow link.)

All things bright and beautiful
And did those feet in ancient time
Angel-voices ever singing
Be thou my vision, O Lord of my heart
Come down, O Love divine
Dear Lord and Father of mankind
Guide me, O thou great Redeemer
He who would valiant be
I danced in the morning
Immortal, invisible, God only wise
King of glory, King of peace
Lead us, heavenly Father, lead us
Let all the world in every corner sing
Lord of all hopefulness
Love Divine, all loves excelling
Make me a channel of your peace
Morning has broken
Now thank we all our God
O Jesus, I have promised
O Love that wilt not let me go
O perfect Love, all human thought transcending
O praise ye the Lord!
O thou who camest from above
O worship the King
Praise, my soul, the King of heaven
Tell out, my soul

For the official Church of England’s ‘Your Church Wedding’ website, please click here


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